Sex, lies & The Great Escape Part 1


I have heard your cries and felt your pain so I entered into the jungle that is Online Dating. This has been eye opening to say the least. I decided to really hook you guys up by delving in and seeing what the ladies are thinking. So I came up with the obvious and got together with my gal pals and we had one hell of a Pow Wow so we have got you covered.

This is a 2 parter as today was the how to get signed up and running and the second part will be the good, the bad and the down right scary of the online dating world. The apps are endless so know what you want and especially what you don’t want. But please don’t run for the hills yet as I said there are some lovely stories too and of course marriages so all is not lost.. 

I want you to be safe and have a pleasant experience. My gal pals really did deliver and wanted to dole out some much needed advice to you fellas. So I have the young ones and the young fellas covered. As I am an old fashioned gal and really do say you cannot beat the ‘ol face to face energy but hey we are in the age of I want it NOW!! So the online dating apps were born. It seems like its dick pics and filters ahoy!! But I always say this Would you walk up to a girl in the pub with your langer out saying “What ye think love?” No you wouldn’t!!!! 

If you wouldn’t do it in public then please don’t do it online and another thing that the gals hate is this sentence “So what are you looking for here?”, without even a Hello! Come on peeps we can do so much better than that! 

One thing I forgot to mention was please when taking pics or looking at them don’t take them in the dark with your hood up, you look like a serial killer who probably lives in your Mams basement and if you have no pic then you have got to be up to something shady as we all have a gizillion pics on our phone so RED FLAG!! Alert Alert!

Now listen up it is not all bad, as I say in the show, relationships have evolved and when you listen in you’ll her me talk about the terms and conditions of each app. Before you tick the terms and conditions box, please read to protect your personal info from being shared with third parties…yes yes yes I know that they’re long and boring but your safety is my priority and of course your well being.

There is also a video podcast version on Youtube, which you can check out. This is my first video and one I will probably never ever do again as it was painful. But I just wanted to give it a go… don’t say I didn’t try. And try I did. I have to give it up for the You Tubers…guys you rock, dont know how you do it but fair play to you because if anyone thinks its easy then please I could do with your help.

Before I start with Part 2 I want to hear your stories, tips and advice for lads and the girlies so get them in ASAP here wideawakeprettygirl@gmail.com

Catch me on Youtube as Wide Awake Pretty Girl and pretty much everywhere else. Until the next time Wide Awakers…

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National Stay Single Day

So as it seems to be the norm that each day has its own National Day, I have found myself heading straight to googldygoop to find out what National Day I’m celebrating, after all i am Irish and love to have any excuse to have a party!! So in my search I stumbled across the fact that it was National Stay Single Day and I had to let my fingers do the taking on this one.

Could this be the fact that we’re coming up on Valentines Day and the singles were looking for a day too..hmmm makes you wonder. Well hold on to your single knickers Sheila, i have you covered!

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Ok I totally get why Millenials want to stay single, get their college degrees and forge their way in the career world, before they would even consider a relationship (hair flick). But before I give the Millenials all the credit here. I remember when I was starting out in my career and wanting to be single (All the ladies, single ladies..Independant woman..Destiny Child) ~Come on you 90s peeps I know you remember throwing yourself around the dance floor to this tune, while secretly envying your mates “Ating” the face off some randomer.

But seriously I get it, I really do. But having a lot of friends who have gone through their first marriage and are now single I hear their point too. Seriously not having to pick up those icky boxers and the like and having to deal with the ups and downs of a relationship is something I totally get. Less of the drama and more of the me time. But in some of the points I read was “I get to be myself” “I get up when I want to” “I get to go out when I want to” “I don’t have to answer to anyone”. Well as the quote above states, yes you absolutely have to be wholely in love with yourself before you can get into a relationship. You may have heard me say it on my podcast, but you cannot give away wont you don’t have. If you don’t have complete self love and appreciate yourself and know your own worth then I would say this. ..

Whilst still in school, explore your likes, loves and dislikes, never ever fall prey to peer pressure – yes that ‘ol chestnut!! Have friends, in fact have lots of them and never ever let geographics stop you from seeing them as you get older. Have adventures, as many as you can squeeze in. Never ever be reckless with other peoples hearts, especially your own. If you do suffer a broken heart, take the time to heal, grow and learn, so that you never bring that emotional baggage into every other relationship in the future. Speaking of baggage..Travel the world and take in every culture as you possibly can, this will help you evolve as an individual. Learn languages, hell get fluent. Go to Italy at least once in your young life and see what it really means to be an artist. But and this is a big but…if you do happen to fall in love with all of your heart, then go with it and just like the mighty arms of a stream, let it see where it takes you. Maybe you’ll be a couple for life (GASP OF HORROR from the singles)

But hey I’m just a gal in her 40s doling out a pinch of advice. Which reminds me “Hun you wouldn’t mind sticking on the kettle, I’m only gasping for a cuppa” So to all of you singletons out there I raise my cuppa Tay to you and say “Cheers, Its National Singles Day!

If any of this has rung your bell, Id love to hear your input. So dont forget to let your fingers do the talking. Until the next time, Stay wide awakened and pretty. – Vivienne